So, I have a firm belief that leaders should have a 4 year age gap from the students they lead. Now, there are exceptions to make it more or for the strong leader who is a month out kind of thing and you need a guitar player now. MAYBE... Student leaders who are students IN the ministry...ok. There is a place and time for that to. But the graduate who doesn't want to let go of youth groups of ol'....??? That is why we have a college group...right?
Some of my current students don't get why the older guys can't come back and they think it is stupid. Yet, across town O got leaders in jail for sex with 13 year old students. HELLO??!?!?!?
Thoughts????? How do YOU deal?
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We've got the same thing here, we are doing two things to help "combat the groupies" (that would be a good band name):
1) A very clear departure ceremony... a graduation from youth group. It makes it very clear that there time has come to a close and we are sending them with our blessing to do ministry.
2) Getting students plugged in other places in the church while they are still students. It is a smoother transition if they have somewhere else to go when they exit the youth ministry.