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February's coming up... how do you all do dating/sex/marriage stuff in your groups? We're going to do a 3-week series on "Blind Dating", the idea being that many students approach dating blindly. I'm thinking of doing "Dating and your Faith" (putting God first)one week, then "Dating and your Life" (not letting dating get in front of your friends/family/school, etc), then "Dating and Purity"(staying pure)
I've read recently that TLW pledges aren't really that effective... does anyone have good stats on that? I want to emphasize a commitment to a way of dating rather than just not having sex (E.G., commitment to not being unsupervised, not "watching movies" by yourselves.)
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0 Votes The stats on effectiveness of purity pledges depends on where you get your info. Most of the stuff I've seen says that while many students do not remain completely abstinent after a pledge, they at least tend to be older when they do engage in intercoarse, which is better than nothing. We did a longer study called Naked Truth that was put out by interlinc. It's sort of an all-star study based on the best lessons from doug fields, josh mcdowell, dare2share, and others. Each week was different and it's super easy to prepare and lead. Link Details: The Naked Truth 3 years ago by jasonbh... 3 years ago by jasonbhuffman 3 years ago
0 Votes I have used true love waits and good stuff, last year used the purity code by Jim Burns. AWESOME resource. http://www.homeword.com/Articles/ ArticleDetail.aspx?iArticleId=661 by Pastor Joe 3 years ago by Pastor Joe 3 years ago
0 Votes We've already started. First 2 weeks is on Purity. Next 3 weeks is Dating and Marriage. Sixth week we put it all together "Purity Dating and Marriage". The last class is on Godly Parents (Deut. 6:4-9). I used to separate guys and girls but this year we've kept em together and it's working very well. by pastor e 3 years ago by pastor e 3 years ago
0 Votes I have a lot of thoughts on this subject but I will try and stay on target. First we do a purity study to corresponds to prom rather than V-day. I think students plan in advance to have sex that night and so we start at least 4-6 weeks before to hit it in time. Then we don't just talk about not having sex. We talk about purity in live and that part of that is not having sex till marriage. You have to give them the whys as well. We talk about porn with the guys during this time as well. And we will probably do a porn section with the girls this years as the stats say more and more are addicted to it. I would check out XXXChurch.com for stats and resources. by Bruiseman 3 years ago by Bruiseman 3 years ago
0 Votes For a startling look at STD's check out PamStenzel.com I also think your on the right track with giving them more than just don't do it. A few years ago when we tackled this we tried to focus on why to say no. That why I think can become a more concrete thought to wrap their mind around. by Jewelsa... 3 years ago by Jewelsandme 3 years ago
0 Votes I follow CPYU on Twitter... this is a link they posted just the other day... Hope it helps!! http://newsbusters.org/blogs/carolyn-plocher/2010/ 01/19/vh1-teen-purity-short-lived-marketing-trend by TCN 3 years ago by TCN 3 years ago

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The stats on effectiveness of purity pledges depends on where you get your info. Most of the stuff I've seen says that while many students do not remain completely abstinent after a pledge, they at least tend to be older when they do engage in intercoarse, which is better than nothing. We did a longer study called Naked Truth that was put out by interlinc. It's sort of an all-star study based on the best lessons from doug fields, josh mcdowell, dare2share, and others. Each week was different and it's super easy to prepare and lead.

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The Naked Truth

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jasonbh...

3 years ago

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I have used true love waits and good stuff, last year used the purity code by Jim Burns. AWESOME resource.

http://www.homeword.com/Articles/ ArticleDetail.aspx?iArticleId=661

Pastor Joe

3 years ago

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We've already started. First 2 weeks is on Purity. Next 3 weeks is Dating and Marriage. Sixth week we put it all together "Purity Dating and Marriage". The last class is on Godly Parents (Deut. 6:4-9). I used to separate guys and girls but this year we've kept em together and it's working very well.

pastor e

3 years ago

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I have a lot of thoughts on this subject but I will try and stay on target.

First we do a purity study to corresponds to prom rather than V-day. I think students plan in advance to have sex that night and so we start at least 4-6 weeks before to hit it in time.

Then we don't just talk about not having sex. We talk about purity in live and that part of that is not having sex till marriage. You have to give them the whys as well.

We talk about porn with the guys during this time as well. And we will probably do a porn section with the girls this years as the stats say more and more are addicted to it.

I would check out XXXChurch.com for stats and resources.

Bruiseman

3 years ago

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For a startling look at STD's check out PamStenzel.com

I also think your on the right track with giving them more than just don't do it. A few years ago when we tackled this we tried to focus on why to say no. That why I think can become a more concrete thought to wrap their mind around.

Jewelsa...

3 years ago

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I follow CPYU on Twitter... this is a link they posted just the other day... Hope it helps!!

http://newsbusters.org/blogs/carolyn-plocher/2010/ 01/19/vh1-teen-purity-short-lived-marketing-trend

TCN

3 years ago

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