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How would you deal with teen boys spending the mission trip getting girls numbers?
4 of the teen boys in are group decided to have a contest to see who could get the most phone numbers. They spent the bulk of the time doing this and slacked off when it came to working on the job sites. The parents don't seem to care. Boys will be boys is what I was told by all of them. Just wondering if anyone has had this kind of experience and wondering how you dealt with it or how you would deal with it. Thanks!!
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I agree here. We are running into the same problem at our church. You have to make sure that the people who are going have a clear vision about what the trip is actually about and why they want to go before you allow them to. Sitting down with them and talking about the correct way to go about dating and knowing when one is ready would also help. Rules should be set re dating, appropriate dress, persuing romatic relationships, and only spending time with the opposite sex in large groups. |
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I haven't dealt with it before but I think for starters I'd pull the boys aside and tell them this sort of thing is unacceptable, then for the rest of the trip I'd make sure myself and other leaders were keeping a close eye on them. Separating them as much as possible would also be good. Also, do you use a screening process for deciding who will go on mission trips or can anyone go? Allowing everyone to go can be a good way to help some of the fringe kids in the group grow in their faith, however you'll get more goofing around. If you're looking to do a more in-depth, serious trip it might be helpful to have some steps participants must pass before they can go (e.g. an application, articles to read, do other services, references, etc...). |
